Prom
Girl
Everything
you need to know about Prom!
Besides
a dress, the shoes, and all the accessories you need, what else do you need to
know about prom? Read the tips from PromGirl’s Prom Guide and get the most out
of your prom experience. Whether tips about cost, or info for your date, or how
to best remember your prom forever, it’s in here! Just choose a section below
or on the left to learn everything you ever wanted to know about prom.
Dating
Molly
On… Dating
“I
think traditionally, every girl dreams about having a guy ask her to prom just
like in the movies… but in real life sometimes girls have to be bolder than
guys. Some guys are intimidated by us gals, and really want to ask us out, but
don’t know how. I think asking a guy is perfectly alright, as long as you feel
confident… and just remember, if he says no, a pack of girls can sometimes be
just as fun as a boy/girl date.”
The
best way to turn someone down is thank them for their offer, then tell them
that unfortunately someone got to you first. And tell them that you’ll see them
there and save a dance for them. Even if you have no intention of dancing with
this person, it’s still a nice gesture. Just be gracious. I always think to
myself, wow, I made an impression on this person enough for them to dig up the
courage to ask me out.”
Your
Date
Advice
on finding, keeping or ditching the guy of your dreams (or nightmares)
It’s
year thirteen of the new millennium and this is not Peggy Sue’s prom it’s
yours. What I mean by this is times have changed since the fifties. A lot of
things that weren’t acceptable are now perfectly fine.
©You don’t need to have a boyfriend to have a date. It’s
perfectly acceptable to go to prom with a group of friends. And they don’t have
to be just girls either. You can go with a mixed group of guys and girls who
aren’t “involved” with each other, just friends, and just fun.
©Going alone has become totally appropriate.
©Asking a boy to your prom is completely okay. Yup, it’s okay
because it’s your prom and it’s your night. But, asking a young man if he would
like to take you to his prom may be a little too forward. Good manners dictates
whoever’s school is throwing the prom has the asking privileges, but it’s your
call. Mom may say that this is wrong, but again times have changed. You may
want to talk this over with her, keep in mind to stay level headed. Don’t
argue, or tell her she is old, just tell her that it is accepted in today’s
society to call boys, and ask them out.
I know
that no matter what I say, there are those of you who will insist on finding a
boy to take to the prom. Just remember that the sooner you get a date the
better. You will have a lot of planning to do.
Remember:
The soon you get a date the better. You and your date will have a lot to do.
How to
Talk to Boys
For
those of you who have no problem talking to boys or getting boys to talk to you
for that matter, read this. It never hurts to brush up on your communication
skills. You might just learn how to catch that perfect boy who has been
mysteriously unobtainable.
So
you’re nervous about talking to this guy (that’s completely understandable).
You would really like him to ask you to the prom, but first you have to get him
to notice you. Then you have to get him to talk to you.
First
off, don’t stare. That could creep him out! If you’re lucky a simple smile
could work. Then if he comes over; you’re halfway there. Uh-oh! You panic! You
can’t think of anything to say. You have to talk! Here are some Ice Breakers…
Be
Direct
“What’s
your name?”
(If you
know it say) Well, hello, Matthew Martin! (But only if that’s his name)
Be
Funny
“You
live around here?”
“Do you
go to school here?”
(WARNING!
This is only funny if you’re in school at the time)
“Looks
like the love portion I slipped in your grub at lunch worked. You do worship me
now don’t you?”
Excuse
me…
Is it
“many are called but few are chosen,” or “many are cold but few are frozen?” By
the way do you have a date for the prom?
Be
Flirtatious
But
only if that’s in your nature
“I
couldn’t help but notice you drooling over me.”
“Would
you like to take me out sometime, like prom night?”
Or Be
Funny And Flirtatious
*Your
name must be Visa, because you’re everywhere I want to be.”
*”I
seem to have lost my phone number, may I have yours?”
* “ I’m
new in town; may I have directions to your house?
*
“There must be something wrong with my eyes; I can’t take them off you.”
* “Are
you from Tennessee? Cause you’re the only ten I see.”
* “ May
I borrow a quarter? I’d like to call my mom and tell her I just met the guy of
my dreams.”
* “You
must be tired, you’ve been running through my mind all day.”
* “If I
could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put U and I together.”
* “Did
it hurt when you fell from heaven?”
* “Are
you a surgeon? Cause you took my heart away!”
* “Do
you have a band-aid? I scraped my knee when I fell for you.”
* “
Look at his shirt label and when he asks what you are doing say, “I’m checking
to see if you were made in heaven.”
* “Is
it hot in here or is it just you?”
* “If I
pet you would you follow me home?”
Get His
Attention
Now
that you have his attention, you’ll have to make conversation. You also want to
get to know him. Okay he’s cute, but do you have anything in common? Is he good
to you? Find out! Ask him some questions. Ask him something about him, sports,
clothes, art, movies, music, current affairs, even school. Don’t start off the
conversation talking about you. While I’m sure you’re very interesting, you
want to know about him, don’t you?
Remember: Even the coolest guys feel insecure about
approaching girls; not to mention asking them out—
It’s
wise to know that some guys may feel uncomfortable about going to your prom for
reasons of often than you. Maybe they can’t dance, or they think they will look
funny in a tuxedo. He may also be wondering if he can afford all of this.
Things can add up, the tickets, limousine, dinner, corsage, photos and who
knows what else!
That’s
why you’ll have to get him talking. Find out if there is anything you can do to
help. Then you can get him to ask you to the prom.
You
hate his choice of music, movies, sports, or politics…
You
found a guy you would like to get to know better. He’s cute and athletic but
you notice an ICP sticker on his book bag. You Hate ICP. You think their repulsive. Don’t worry about it. I’m sure there
are many ideas and opinions you have in common; find them. No need to zero in
on one or two things you disagree on. And don’t make the common mistake of
pretending to like things he likes just so he’ll like you. Besides, once you
have him eating out of your hand you can introduce him to music you like… that
is if he hasn’t got you hooked by then. Remember it is a two way street.
Dating:
Other Schools
The
Prom Date From Another Planet
If
there isn’t anybody in your school you want to ask to the prom, or wants to ask
you, you may be luckier than you think. Look at your love-struck friends whose
grades and performance are suffering because they can’t go to their third
period class without touching base with lover boy at his locker.
Still,
if you feel uncomfortable about going date less: solution! Talk to a cousin,
aunt or another family member who doesn’t live too near you, and let them know
that you are on the market for a prom date. Talk to someone from another
neighborhood preferably from another school district. You won’t believe how
many available dates come out of the woodwork! Aunt Edna will know the cutest
boy!
Advantages
of Interplanetary Dating
I know,
I know, you feel a little on the edge because your date is from the great unknown.
You’ve heard the expression “always look on the bright side”? Here are some of
those sides…
*1. You don’t have the fear of rejection!
Nobody but your best friend, sister, cousin, mom, Aunt Edna or whoever fixed
you up knows you’re even fishing in another pond. So if he blows you off, you
won’t have to hear about it in school on Monday. He’s not from your school or
even your world.
*2. You can dump him after the prom. You can
just go back to your own planet and forget you ever met him. When you’re friends
ask whatever happened too… you can just tell them the truth; you dumped him. If
he dumped you, you can tell them that too. People often say, I dumped him, even
if it was the other way around. Steer clear of lying, if you are embarrassed to
say you were dumped, just tell them you broke up, or it didn’t work. If you get
a rep for telling lies, no one will want to believe you about anything.
Besides, some people will believe what they want anyhow.
*3. There is a certain amount of intrigue and
appeal to having a mystery date! You may develop a completely different aura
and become more interesting to your classmates!
How To
Turn A Dude Down
Uh, oh!
Mr. Not-So-Right has just worked up the courage to ask you to the Prom. Don’t
panic. It’s not as bad as you think. Try these simple rules to stay cool, and
to let him still think you’re all that!
Do Be
Honest: Tell
him you’re flattered and you’re glad he thought of you. Then explain your
situation. “I already promised my friends we’d all go together, “or “There’s
someone else I was planning to ask.”
Don’t
dangle the carrot in front of him: Saying maybe is the ultimate in bad manners. If he’s a
suitable second choice, then you should ask choice #1, to insure Mr.
Almost-Right doesn’t have time to find another date if #1 falls through. Then
you can be the decision maker.
Don’t
Lie: Claiming you’re
skipping the prom will come back to bite you. He’ll see you there and you’ll
look like a total jerk and even feel worse!
Do
Consider His Feelings: Treat
him with respect and be genuine when you see him in the halls. He’ll come out
of it with a not-so bruised ego, and you’ll have one more admirer in the world.
10
Dating Crises (Part 1)
What’s
The Worse That Can Happen?
Dilemma
#1: Date doesn’t dance.
Everything
is perfect. You (of course) look fabulous, thee music is superb, the lights are
low, and the perfect song cones on. Problem! Your date won’t get out on the
dance floor.
Solution: Don’t freak out, he might not know how to
dance. Start him out slow! Begin with a few slow dances, and gradually work him
up to fast up to faster dances. If he still refuses, just go have fun. Dance
with your girl friends.
Dilemma
#2: Date can’t keep his hands off of you.
All
evening, your date lavishes a lot of attention to you. You totally eat up. But
after the partying, he still won’t lay off. It gets a little creepy, and he
needs to back off.
Solution: Well… you do look great, but this is no
reason for him to lose respect for you (or control). Just talk to him. He may
just be caught up in the whole romance of the evening. Try to not make a scene,
but if he still won’t back off, make as much of a scene as necessary.
Dilemma
#3: Date hates his picture taken.
Your
date arrives at your house and everyone is ready for picture taking. You go to
that perfect little picture spot, and show your beautiful smile. Then you look
up to see your date with no expression on his face. What to do, what to do?
Solution: Try to loosen your date, tickle him or
push him in jest. If this doesn’t work, just ask him to smile and act like he
wants to go to prom. If all else falls, give him the puppy dog lip and eyes.
That always works!
Dilemma
#4: Date dances with another girl.
Your
guy likes to dance so much that when your feet get tired, and you need a rest he
keeps going like the “energizer bunny.” When you sit down and realize he is not
following you, you look for him to find he is dancing with someone else!
Solution: What would you do in his situation? If she
is a friend of his, try to be understanding. He is just having fun. But if she
is some random girl, or one of those girls that you just can’t stand, get back
onto those dancing feet and cut in. Don’t be rude about it, but make it obvious
that he is yours.
Dilemma
#5: Date’s tux doesn’t fit.
Its 24
hours before the big day, and your date goes to pick up his tux. Like a good
boy, he tries it on when he gets to the shop. They ordered him the wrong size,
and everything is way too tight!
Solution: Usually it is just a mix up of orders, and
someone else’s tux will be too big, but if the shop is isn’t able to do
anything about it, try going to another shop if this doesn’t work, see if
anyone you know has one he can wear. Or, you might be able to buy one. Check
out the local department store. Even some thrift shops have inexpensive
tuxedos.
Ten
Date Crises (Part 2)
What
Else Could Possibly Happen?
Dilemma
#6: Your date doesn’t show up.
So you
are all ready and waiting for your date to arrive. And waiting, and waiting,
and waiting…
Solution: The first thing you should do is try
calling his house. If nobody answers or you don’t know his number, call up some
of your friends that are going to prom. Ask if you can hitch a ride with them,
and try to enjoy yourself as best as you can. Believe me, there may be a million
reasons he didn’t show, and you can deal with that later! Leave word for him if
he shows at your house, and go to the prom anyway.
Dilemma
#7: Your date is bored and wants to leave.
Your
date doesn’t seem to be into this whole prom thing. He’s had that “is it over
yet,” look on his face all night. When you try to talk to him, he tells you how
bored he is, and asks you if you want to leave.
Solution: Tell him how important the night is to
you. If he doesn’t understand or just keeps complaining, let him go home. He’s
not worth your time if he can’t sacrifice a little boredom for your sake.
Dilemma
#8: Your date leaves during the prom.
You
take a minute to fix your makeup and hair in the ladies room and when you
return, your friends inform you that your date left with his buds to start the
partying early.
Solution: Don’t take it personally! If a guy can do
this on one of the most special nights of your life, then he is a real creep!
Just finish the night off and have fun without him. Your friends will be there
to bad mouth him, and cheer you up. Be glad you found out now, before anything
serious developed.
Dilemma
#9: Your date picks out the gaudiest outfit on Earth.
You didn’t
have tine to go with your date to pick out his tux, but you did tell him not to
clash with your dress. Well he shows up and it doesn’t matter what dress you would
have chosen; he clashes with everything!
Solution: Well… it’s his prom too. Okay, so it was inconsiderate
of him to get such a flashy outfit, but what can you do? It’s already time to go.
Just go and have fun. Whatever you do, don’t cry and ruin the makeup that took forever
to put on. Who knows, this may put you in the yearbook a bunch of times. At the
very least his tux will be a topic of conversation.
Dilemma
#10: Oops! Your date is shorter than you when you wear heels.
After pondering
over whom the perfect prom date would be, you choose one. And the winner is_______
(fill in the blank with prom date). He’s funny, smart, sweet, and… short!
Solution: Don’t ever let any bit of vanity get in your
way. Beauty is only skin deep. Just don’t let this problem get any worse, buy flats.
If anyone dares say anything, don’t hurt his feelings. Jus smile, and say “he is
perfect,” and continue with your perfect evening.
